In my previous blog I began by setting the scene for contemporary romantic relationships by using my own experience as a narrative for understanding what it looks like for men in particular to be in relationships. I explained how I believe romantic relationships are the real litmus test as far as exposing who we really are. As a single person it is very easy for one to make claims of being patient, caring, considerate etc. but how patient or considerate one is truly reveals i

Having just gone through yet another Valentine’s Day I thought it apt to share some thoughts around romantic love. I have shared previously that I believe that humanity is characterised relationally. In other words, we only truly know ourselves in the context of our relationship with others. Many times, people say to me “I just need time away from everyone to figure myself out”. While this can at times be useful, the reality regarding how much we have actually achieved this i

In the last blog we began an exploration into the idea of new year’s resolutions. Using the example of Samantha’s story, we saw how for many people setting goals can prove to be the catalyst for disappointment, depression and shame when they find themselves unable to meet those goals. There is a current obsession prevalent on social media with ‘living my best life’ and ‘being the best version of myself’. I have to say it’s one trend I have found difficult to relate to. I am u

Saturday marked 12 months since I walked out of the RAC having worked there for 15 years. When I first joined the RAC 15 years ago, I was fresh out of Bible College and had just finished 2 years of pastoral work in a little church tucked away in the Northern suburbs of Perth. I had enrolled at Edith Cowan University to pursue a master’s in international business. I very quickly felt at home within the RAC family who were very accommodating to my university needs. I went on to

In my last blog I introduced the concepts of #attachment and #trauma and attempted to draw a link between the two. We explored these theories through the example of an anonymous boy who grows up in a family where he is neglected by his significant caregiver leaving him with a sense that in this life he will have to fend for himself. He then enters the world expecting it to be predictable and kind and quickly realises how harsh and unpredictable the world can be. With no soft

25/10/18 Driving in Canggu, on the popular shortcut road to the picturesque beach club ‘The Lawn’, my Grab driver made an interesting comment. “This is one of the most dangerous roads in the world”, he said. “I can see why it’s dangerous. I imagine there are a lot of accidents here”, I replied. And then the comment…” Yes, it’s mainly your people who aren’t used to the road who have accidents here”, he said with a friendly but cheeky smile. This got me thinking. “Your people”?